To ask, to tell or to just do it?
What am I talking about you might ask?
Adjusting Your seat on a plane!
Ask the person behind you if it’s ok to move your seat back?
Do you just tell them you are moving your seat back giving them advanced notice?
Do you just move your seat back and the hell with the consequences?
Tick off the person behind you?
Spill their drink in their lap?
Give them a fat lip since they were leaning over while fishing into their carry-on for ear buds when you moved your seat back?
You know how it goes: your head is still up but your hands are fumbling down under the seat in front of you. Your head and arms don’t all quite fit down over your thighs.
That is unless you have been doing a ton of yoga.
I haven’t given anyone a fat lip OR spilt their drink on them.
I’ve had it all done to me.
Never mind crying babies or unruly children, I haven’t had bad experiences in that respect. I get what it is like to travel with young kids, but I have had what is akin to bodily harm during flights.
Yep, here comes another story.
I’ve asked the person behind me if it’s ok that I move my seat back and was given a dirty look or a reluctant, guilt inducing “go ahead”.
Followed by a Tsk with the tongue.
I’ve also been told, "no problem, move your seat back"..
A few times I have told the person behind me that I’m moving my seat back with varying responses.
And I’ll admit, in the past I just did it.
Some airlines do not let you recline your seat anymore.
Or the seats are fixed in a stick straight, upright position.
WOW! That is SO uncomfortable not only on the long haul, but for the short hop
I’m not in the first class realm.
Don’t pity me. Send me airline miles so I can upgrade
SO NOT KIDDING.
Before our seats got so crammed one on top of the other leaning back did not put you in someone’s lap. (Like the gentleman who is sitting in front of me RIGHT NOW! Or should I say in my lap right now?)
Yes, I’m on a plane to California.
I’m really fortunate that way.
No, I’m not making a zillion dollars writing. Although I do welcome what flows in from “the kindness of strangers".
I have a wonderful husband who is retired and wants to travel while the travelin’s good.
Translation: while we still have our health.
(Back to the whole airplane seat analogy. Although, I’m not sure it IS an analogy.)
At this moment I'm staring at the screen on the back of the seat facing me INCHES away from my face…that’s real life, not a metaphor. At least I don't have to put on my glasses.
Real life is funnier, more outrageous, scarier, kinder, nastier, and more interesting to write about than anything I can concoct in my head.
AND, trust me, my head can concoct a lot!
Today - in front of me - I got a seat in my face, and behind me I got a scowl and attitude.
I didn’t say anything to the gentleman who just shoved his seat back.
Maybe I needed to.
Like- "It would be great if you could have given me some warning." BUT from the looks of it I would have gotten a scowl, attitude and maybe more.
Nonetheless, I did what I thought was the more considerate thing to the passenger behind me and STILL got a scowl and attitude.
So you might say damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
But I’m not going to think like that.
I’m going to to take a screen in the face and still ask the person behind me if I may lean back MY seat.
Someone, at some point, is going to say no, and I’m going to keep my seat upright.
BUT, today’s not that day.
Right now THAT decision feels like PRO-aging.
Happy to be contributing to The Pro-Age Network by Pro-Age Woman.
I will even forgive not spelling my name correctly.
It's not an affectation or something I invented. The spelling of my name has a beautiful story attached to it.
I'll write, podcast or video about it sometime!
It's K-a-Z for a very good reason. ;)
Click here to read my latest article on Revolution Gray:
"When Life Throws You A Curveball, Get a Catcher's Mitt."
I am so excited to be continuing to share my passion for positive aging getting real with aging and taking healthy aging to the next level.
Stay tuned for more articles, videos and photos.
While we are at it here is where I podcast. You will find a podcast on this article.
My podcasts are just me, chatting with you about PRO-aging.
Simple, direct, honest, transparent and pulling no punches.
I 'm excited to take what I view as PRO-aging to the next level.
I've committed myself to living OUT LOUD in regards to positive aging and that means being more vocal, more informative, more demonstrative, and even more passionate about aging well.
Aging well is not simply relegated to those over "a certain age".
We are aging every moment of every day from the time we're born.
We go through various stages of "growing pains" and aging transitions.
It's important to do it all with a sense of what is happening RIGHT NOW in aging.
I've shied away from anything controversial about aging, BUT aging can be messy, unpredictable, painful and controversial.
It can also be enlightening, expansive, fun, enjoyable, fulfilling and even peaceful.
Aging encompasses pretty much every aspect of life that you can think of.
Health, sex, politics, religions, diet, exercise, relationships, friendships, work, career (and no, they aren't the same thing) education or lack thereof, personal and body image, self-esteem, confidence, illness, death, and on and on.
We need to address these things openly and honestly through dialogue and conversation.
We NEED to do it with facts and genuine discussion even though we may ruffle a few feathers.
We DESPERATELY need to give attention to ageism from the teenage years to the advanced years.
Aging for women, especially, is hard because of continual societal limitations and discriminations. We as woman are forging our way in our personal and global experiences.
I don't want to back away from those things that might offend people either.
It's not my responsibility to make facts palatable. It's each person's responsibility to understand why they are offended, if it has credence OR if it's bias fueled by misinformation, prejudice or propaganda.
I wish to express my educated (as much as possible) opinion to HELP us age better.
I don't buy into anti-aging schemes such as lotions and potions. Don't get me wrong, lotions and potions are wonderful, and feel really good.
Most of it doesn't work like it's advertised. These products have large marketing budgets. It's all out there at 2 am when we can't sleep and are feeling our worst.
I've done my homework on so many products. I have been my own private guinea pig to prove what works and what doesn't.
You can take what I share or express with a grain of salt.
If you have any doubts I ENCOURAGE you to get online and research for yourself anything I share.
My only goal is to be as real, transparent and maybe sometimes as VOCAL as possible to help us age better tomorrow than we are aging today.
I've had long and hard discussions with my son and husband about how I wish to show up; about my fears of speaking out LOUD AND CLEAR about pro-aging.
I've worried about ridiculous internet retribution and clap back by those who only live to demean others: even others with important missions.
I'm no longer afraid of the conflict.
PRO-AGING is too important to listen to those who have nothing better to do than put me down to make themselves feel better or more powerful.
And you know what that is?
THAT'S NOT PRO-AGING.
Thanks so much for reading.
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Pro-Age Rampage Podcast
Quotes & Quips by KaZ
"I don’t want to run out of steam before I run out of life."