What is reality?
Is my reality your reality?
Is your reality my reality?
Is "reality" really reality?
Is it overrated?
What I have come to know is that your reality and my reality aren't always the same reality.
AND THAT'S OK!
Then, on the OTHER hand, let's talk about truth.
What is truth?
Is your truth my truth and visa versa?
Is truth fact?
Is fact truth?
Inquiring minds (mine) want to know.
I'm not asking these questions to be glib.
I am looking at them from practical, philosophical and existential points of view.
AND I say POINTS not point because there is not one point of view there are many.
Many, many, many, many.
I have many.
You have many.
Do you think if we actually, collectively gave a moment's thought to the questions above that we MIGHT be more tolerant or accepting.
Strike that. I don't like the word tolerant.. It's remarkably limiting.
I actually find it judgmental.
Does anyone really want to be TOLERATED?
"I "tolerate" you."
Yuck, it feels arrogant to me.
How about acceptance and being accepted?
"I accept you."
Doesn't that just FEEL better?
It IS about feelings, is it not?
How you feel.
How you allow yourself to FEEL.
The saying goes: "people may not remember exactly what you did or what you said but they will always remember how you made them feel?"
Within that line of thinking there is debate that someone can MAKE you feel anything.
Do we CHOOSE how to feel, thus taking the responsibility off of another person's shoulders?
There's the rub.
If you tell me how much I "SUCK", will I be evolved enough to say "That's not about me, that's about you, so your words don't affect me." ?
"Sticks and stones...." and all that.
Accordingly is the perception in your reality that it's ok to say 'YOU SUCK" and the perception in my reality to be hurt merely...
OR IS IT...
In your reality I suck.
In my reality I don't suck and I feel that was pretty darn mean.
So who is correct?
In my reality I feel that you're kind of an idiot right about now AND in your reality you feel I'm the idiot. (Or most likely you would not have said I suck, right?)
What does that have to do with the price of tea in China?
(Nothing, really, I just like that ambiguous phrase.)
...being a little less esoteric.
To quote Simon Pegg's character Graeme in the film Paul:
Graeme: "Look. Just because your truth, isn't the true truth, doesn't mean there is no truth, Ruth".
Ruth: "That's easy for you to say."
NO, IT'S NOT!
What is truth but our individual TRUTHS?
What is reality but our own perception of it?
Have you ever read eye witness accounts of an accident or incident?
Ten eye witnesses will have 10 different versions. There may be some overlapping but NONE of them read the same.
All of the reports depend on visual angles, emotions, thought processes, filters, the light, the dark, and so on.
Similarly, let's look at the game of telephone.
You remember that game, right?
A group of people stand in a line. One person whispers a sentence to the person next to them. They then whisper it to the next person in line all the way down to the end of the line.
99 times out of 100 its ends a hell of a lot differently than it started.
Start: "The Rain in Spain Falls Mainly In the Plain."
End: "I Took a Train to Jersey and had Noodles with Rihanna."
NOW do you see where I am going with this entire dissertation?
Allow room for perception, individual reality and personal truths.
If it's doing us no harm let's just grin, acknowledge it and carry on.
If it's destructive, divisive or damaging then chalk that up to ego, self-absorption and narcissism, and carry on.
it's in how you carry on that really makes the difference.
I do my best to sideswipe the destructive, divisive and damaging, if I can..
I quickly hit "disengage" and alter my course.
HOWEVER, if it's really onerous, then, yea, I have to speak up.
And speak up I do.
More about THAT another time.
As always thanks for reading.
See you again next week.
Please pass this on to anyone you think may enjoy my takes on life.
Until next time, visit my dear friend, artist and writer, Linda Hough.
She uses her art in incredible, healing collages.
KaZ has been in many facets of entertainment, plus the co-owner of two restaurants, a fitness center, a television production company and the owner of a cinema. She did a stint in politics, and in veterinary medicine, She now focuses on writing.
In addition to the above, KaZ is an award-winning vocalist, a former dancer, stunt actor, circus artist, & professional water skier. She has worked as a theater artistic director & writer.
KaZ has been a published writer in magazines & books since the age of 15. She has written plays that have been produced in New York, Florida & New Orleans. She has a featured chapter in the book How To Survive A Move. (Up-to-date she has moved 45 times!) She wrote an article for Organic Wine Journal, and also wrote an article featured at the Ground Zero Memorial.
KaZ co-wrote 2 television informational series & 3 television pilots. One of the pilots, a sit-com, was produced as a reality pilot. KaZ has revisited it and it's now a one season cable series.
“(And ) Then This Happened.” based on life, love, and everything in between in the mid-life years. Loosely based on her life and the life of two of her best girlfriends.
KaZ's many high pressure pursuits led her to meditation.
She began studying meditation in '91. Her initial training focused on Kundalini Yoga with Yogi Bhajan and his teachers. She is a certified Master Meditation and Qigong Instructor, having taught
throughout California, Florida, New York & British Columbia, Canada and online worldwide.
Most recently KaZ taught in a juvenile justice facility, and lectured on mental health in juvenile justice.
With writing being her first love, look for KaZ's upcoming children's books:
from the tales of two grandmothers.
Plus, a play based on letters from her two great uncles during the Second World War.